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5 things we know about children and
youth that do use these skills successfully:
- They do significantly better in school,
academically, behaviorally, and socially.
- They show care and concern for others,
get along with peers and have more friends.
- They communicate and relate better
with siblings and parents.
- They develop healthy relationships
with peer groups.
- They stay out of "big" trouble
and demonstrate respectful behaviors toward teachers
and other adults.
5 things we know about children and
youth who do not use these skills successfully:
- They engage in discourteous and disrespectful
behaviors like put downs, insults, threats, trash
talk, bullying, pushing, fighting, etc.
- They engage in far more serious and
violent acts when the above behaviors persist over
time and more appropriate alternative behaviors are
not taught.
- They are often socially unaccepted
and avoided.
- They are more likely to lose their
job as an adult.
- They are more likely to get poor grades
in school.
When To Teach a Social Skill
It is important that the teaching of a skill occurs
at a calm, neutral, and relaxed time when you and your
child are getting along and not having difficulties.
This will make the interaction more fun and pleasant
so that learning can occur. It is unlikely that your
child will be willing to listen and respond in a positive
manner if the teaching occurs during an upsetting time
or when either parent or child is experiencing a stressful
situation. Some times that the teaching could occur
might be:
- While riding in the car
- On a walk
- At the park
- After playing a game
- After a meal
- While on a vacation
- After reading a story
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